Are You Having Trouble Picking Up Women?

What’s the definition of insanity?

No, it’s not being bound and placed into a white rubber room with no way to escape. The true definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again, expecting to get a different result.

How in the world can anyone expect to have success in picking up women, when they haven’t been successful up to this point, if they don’t do something different?

The answer is, of course, because they’re insane!

But seriously, chances are you’re reading this because you haven’t been successful in picking up women. Chances are you have been doing the same thing over and over again – maybe with some tweaks here or there – but generally doing the same thing, and you’ve consistently received the same results – NOTHING. Not a date. Not a nice conversation. Not a phone number. Not a night in the sack.

On the other hand, maybe you’ve achieved something, just not exactly what you were looking for.

So why do you keep doing the same old things if they have proven, time and again, that they don’t work?

The truth of the matter is that most guys don’t know what else to do. And most guys have this (mistaken) belief that picking up women is something men should magically know how to do, so they feel ashamed and embarrassed to admit that they need some help learning how to do it right.

There’s nothing wrong with being embarrassed or ashamed. The wrong part comes in when you don’t do anything about it. But that’s why you’re reading this.

Guys also have another (mistaken) belief that holds them back – this belief in fate or destiny, however you want to look at it. If it’s meant to be, it’ll happen, right?

Wrong!

Destiny just doesn’t happen. It’s not as if the woman of your dreams is going to waltz right into your life, fall madly in love with you, and the two of you will live happily ever after. At least it’s not going to happen without some level of effort on your part.

Fairy tale endings don’t happen in real life. That’s why they’re called Fairy Tales (fairies don’t exist, and tales are … well, lies!). Believing in Fairy Tale endings will only serve to keep you in that rubber room.

So what do you have to do to be successful in picking up women? Something different, of course … clearly you haven’t been paying attention if you’re still asking this question!

All kidding aside, you do have to do something different. The real question is, are you willing? Change is probably one of the most terrifying thing human beings face. Think about it – if change was such an easy, pleasant thing to do, wouldn’t you be successful picking up women?

Think about the last time you saw a beautiful woman in a place where you could have approached her, but you didn’t. Why didn’t you approach her? The reason you didn’t approach her is because of your fear of change.

Most people aren’t comfortable with change – and it’s not just men. Women are afraid of change too. We go about our lives doing things in basically the same way – we get up on our day off, get a cup of coffee, feed the dog, walk outside, pick up the paper, come back inside, sit in the same chair, and read the paper. Our morning work routine looks the same – get up, get in the shower, first the shampoo, then the soap, then shave. Towel down when finished showering (start at the top, work down, first the left arm, then the right, left leg before the right leg), get out of the shower, brush teeth, get dressed – left pant leg first, then the right; put on socks, left foot first, then right; put on shoes, left shoe first, then the right. Put on your watch, cufflinks if you need them, tie your tie if you wear one.

The next few times you shower and get dressed, pay attention. Am I wrong? You have a routine and you do things in relatively the same way every time.

Now if I told you that you had to do it differently, wouldn’t it feel weird? Likely you’d forget something – maybe you’d forget to put on your watch, or maybe you’d forget your cufflinks.

It’s not that you can’t do things differently, it’s just that change is difficult. Truly, we are creatures of habit, and change is scary.

We’ll go into more depth about change in the next section.

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