Is She Interested?

by Tom
(USA)

Say that there is a girl that you are interested in but haven't approached or really talked to her on several occasions. Do you think she already has the belief in her mind that you aren't interested, and if so, is there a way to reverse this?

Or is it too late?

YOUR ANSWER

Hello Tom,

Thanks for your questions. There are some clarifying questions I would like to ask. But I'm going to try to give you some advice from what you're telling me.

To address your first question, I think you may be jumping to conclusions. Unless you've had previous interactions with this girl, there's no telling what she's thinking. And if you haven't talked to this girl, how do you expect her to form any opinion of you? She may not even notice you!

Therefore, the only way to find out is to simply approach her and find out. Parts of this article may not pertain to you, but a great deal of time guys make too big of a deal out of approaching a girl. Feel free to check out the article here. The simple solution is to just approach.

And to address the later of your question. If you don't know what she's thinking, than what is there to reverse? And obviously it's not too late.

Now as far as other issues...

If she is a total stranger, than just go ahead and approach. I usually recommend the 3 second rule which forces guys from over-thinking. And the approach can be more direct, like, "Hey I was going to class, but I saw you and just had to come and talk to you." And than you go from there...

But from your article, it seems as if you see this girl often or at least consistently. In that case, I will use some caution. For example, unless you know for sure, I would avoid being as direct. The reason is if it doesn't turn out as expected than there may be some awkwardness and you don't want that with someone you see consistently. This rule holds true for anyone within your immediate circle: co-workers, classmates, etc.

But for strangers, it's perfectly fine and even recommended because if you FIND out she's not interested, than you KNOW NOW and don't have to see her again.

In your situation, from what your telling me, I would probably approach more casually. Ask her general questions and see if you can spark up a conversation. Ask her what her interests are. What kind of food does she like? What kind of movies does she like?

Not only will these questions get the conversation going, but you can LATER use it to setup a time to meet. For example, if she says she likes Italian food and comedies. Than you can say something like, "Hey I'm going to go get some food later and maybe rent a film. Since I know you like Italian food and comedies, wanna come and join me?"

Get the idea?

I hope this helps and let me know what happens. Feel free to message me for more advice or to clarify.

Sincerely,
Bill Li
(Former Owner) HowToGetGirls.net